by Melody McClure

INTER-SPECIES ETIQUETTE
A handbook for Cybertown Citizens
But that is not to say that the transition to a true galactic
community has been without bumps. Species are different. Here are
just a few of the ways in which we differ: morphology, language,
cultural history, evolutionary history, location in the food chain,
environmental preferences, reproductive equipment, number of sexes,
communication of mental state by facial or other expressions . . .
well, I could go on and on, but you get the picture. All of these
differences can, and have, lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings,
insults, and hostility, at some time or another. And yet, these
differences are what make Cybertown a truly fascinating place in
which to live.
What I would like to suggest is that we approach our differences with
interest and delight. Take them as a way to learn more about
ourselves and the world around us. See them, not as a threat or a
challenge, but as an affirmation of the bounty of the universe.
In the meantime, I have taken the time to put together a little
primer on major gaffes which can and should be avoided. It is not
exhaustive, but covers some of the more obvious inter-species
paradigm clashes. Feel free to copy this document and give it to your
friends.
1. Greetings: The universal greeting (a lowering of part of the body
toward the ground) is considered good anywhere. Things to avoid:
Humans: do not try to shake the tentacle of a Golander, thinking it
is homologous to your hand. It is not. The tentacle is a tool. Would
you be impressed by someone who tried to shake your hammer?
Srijavars: do not assume that all human appendages are functionally
equivalent. They are not. The only two appendages which you may in
courtesy shake are the 5-fingered hands. Everything else is off-
limits. Beldoids: most other species would be more comfortable if
your eyes were facing forward during a greeting. I know it seems
strange to you, but there it is.
2. Eating: I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest that
carnivores only feed with carnivores, and herbivores only feed with
herbivores. You omnivores can go either way, but I'd suggest you
stick with the local menu, whatever it is. If you decide to try cross-
feeding, don't say I didn't warn you. And a word of caution to
everyone: please be aware when feeding with Chelowils that their
alimentary canal runs in the opposite direction to what you're
probably used to. Enough said.
3. Schmoozing: You can get in trouble faster with idle banter that
with just about anything else. Here are some topics that are
considered taboo: With Saledos, do not discuss their unusual and
varied coloration. They consider themselves to be purely mental
beings, and their physical bodies are almost an embarrassment. Do not
ask Humans why they have that thatch of hair on their craniums. They
don't know why, but they take great pride in it. Don't ask a Firthin
his name. It's secret.
Well, that's all I have time for today. Next time, I'll discuss inter-
species sex. That will be a short essay. In fact, I can sum it up now. "DON'T"
Your inter-species etiquette advisor,
Melody McClure
Talk to me, baby
out in Beyond Cybertown Colony 3, apartment 76.